sorry for the slightly disturbing image...
I had a dream last night that I was at work, but it was during the Holocaust and the Nazis were roaming. It may have had something to do with the fact that I had just watched a mobster movie where every guy seemed to be getting shot and killed. Put me in the “look over your shoulder” mindset. At least in my dreams.
The night before that I had a dream that I had far less money than I needed because my cell phone provider decided to charge me 8 times what I really owed them. Eerily similar to my real life…
What the dream with the Nazis made me realize, however, is how good my life really is. Sure, between school, work, hobbies and other important pursuits life can be hectic. Money is always tight and I still don’t have my own apartment. But my life isn’t hanging by a thread. No one is out to shoot me (as far as I know). I smiply don’t have to look over my shoulder and worry that the guy behind me will send me flying into a permanent darkness. I won’t have to go to hell just yet…
Now what can happen is twofold. Firstly, the memory of that real heart pounding dream will probably fade before lunchtime, if not already beginning to.
The other thing that can, and does happen, is that on some level we internalize lessons we learn, but then set a base line at which we live. We think about our lives in terms of the real and imminently likely. We don’t think about things that aren’t on the horizon.
Think back to the last time your wife made you dinner. She possibly made you some mixed greens and dehydrated wheat bread. It almost certainly wasn’t what you wanted to eat, and likely didn’t fill you up. Which of the following went through your mind?
A) “That dinner was absolutely horrible, I gotta go get some real grub”.
B) “This dinner my wife just made was fit for an anorexic 12 year old girl, but all things considered it was great, because there was no Cyanide mixed in.”
I’d venture to say you thought the former. We don’t take into consideration that which we don’t expect. We form our opinions about ourselves, our lives and the things around us in terms of the expected. Perhaps that’s a problem in and of itself but until that changes…perhaps my life does suck?